Take what you can use from other parents who have successfully potty trained their children. Some of their advice may be repetitive, but, heck, if it worked for them, it might work for you too!
The day will come where you will look at your child in amazement and with pride realizing something has clicked. Something has registered.
Your child has initiated – with no reminder – going to the potty.
If you’re like most parents, training your toddler feels a lot like fighting an uphill battle. But sometimes, advice from another parent who’s been there can be encouraging enough to pull you through.
Often, potty training habits can be hereditary. That’s right – handed down from generation to generation. Ask about how old you were when you were finally toilet trained and then take that information and apply it to your situation with your own child.
I, myself, was potty trained early – my mother tells me 15 months. However, my brother was 4 years old before he would use the toilet on a regular basis. My own daughter trained herself at 18 months as did my sister. Every child is different. There is no magic formula to help your child potty regularly. You can’t just snap your finger and say “You’re potty trained.”
The real job during training lays with you – not your child. When you foster a supportive environment and couple that with lots of praise and encouragement, you will have a child who is eager to go on the potty and will, most likely train easily in the long run.
You must, must be patient. Most children will take quite a long time before they actually “get it”. It will take up a lot of your time and a huge amount of your attention. But remember that this only lasts a little while and you will be able to get on with your life without having every waking moment having to do with pooping and peeing.
Potty training is not about the potty. It’s about control. Your toddler is learning to control his or her body. The reason that the bathroom becomes a battleground is because parents mistakenly think that they are in control of the situation. Let that idea simply disappear. Your toddler is now in control and accepting that will eliminate the battle
For parents, training is about learning how to help and support their toddler in the fight for independence. It’s imperative that you choose to stay on the right side of the battle lines, or your toddler’s self-esteem will suffer.
By waiting until the time is right, rewarding the behavior you want to see and not shaming your toddler if he or she does get it “wrong”, you are building your toddler’s self-esteem and empowering them to succeed joyfully. No more battles. Happy child. Happy parents. It’s that simple.
I can’t offer a simple solution to everyone’s problem. What we can do is show you what history, experience, research, and time has shown to work in the past with other people in other situations.
You can look into some of those fancy “potty toys” like “Potty Elmo” or dolls that wet themselves on a potty, but the best way to train your child is to listen to them and do what works best for their individual personality. Of course, if these toys will work, by all means use them!
Toilet training is a milestone for a toddler, but it is a process that can be frustrating for both parents and toddler. Realizing that it is a natural process that must be endured for both of you will make this time a little less stressful.
This is something that is very personal for your child, and it should be personal for you as well. As I said earlier, everyone will probably be offering you advice just as we have. Don’t take every piece of advice as “gospel”. Try some of it out and find what works. Then you can be the one offering the advice instead of listening to it! And believe us, you will!
A simple line that Howie Mandel used during one of his comedy shows when he was talking about toilet training his own child. He said that every time his son was asked to use the potty, he would cry – sometimes uncontrollably.
Howie and his wife would get into huge arguments about the fact that their son was crying and how it wasn’t right that he was associating bad things with the potty. Howie combated this thinking to his wife by simply saying, “It’s his potty and he’ll cry if he wants to!”
Relax, have fun, and feel satisfied when you can ditch the diapers and be free at last! Your toddler will feel the same way too!