For children, acting “grown up” is important, partly because children look up to adults so much and often want the power and control they think that adults have. For a child who wets the bed, though, there is a sense of the opposite feelings – lack of control, and lack of power. Children who wet the bed may feel powerless.
When your child thinks, “I feel like a baby.”
Many children may worry that they are acting “babyish,” especially since this is one of the first accusations leveled against bed wetters on the playground. For an adult, being called a “baby” may not be a big problem, but it can feel like a devastating problem to a child, especially a younger one who may see being a “baby” as being left behind while others in the same age group “grow up.”
To offset these feelings, make sure that your child understands that children of all ages – even children who are older – wet the bed. It is truly not a problem of age, but a problem of bladder control, and it can affect people of all ages. While children do eventually “outgrow” the problem in many cases, many children your child would consider “grown up” still face the same problem.
Bedwetting is always taken as a serious problem by many children and some parents. For the parents who see bedwetting as a common phenomenon in a kid that will go away as time passes, it will not become a big deal. However, even when I think it is normal, my kid is just very frustrated; he feels like a baby. Does your beloved child think that way as well? I believe you agree with me that dealing with inferior feeling in a child is not easy as he thinks the parent does not how it feels. In addition, his friends at school also think that way, only a baby who wets the bed. I can imagine how sad he is when he does not have a place where he is seen as a ‘grown-up’ boy.
Well, probably your child feels like being alienated from his community, but definitely he always has a place in his family. At least when he feels the acceptance at home, he has no burden to share with his family all the experience at school that he is called as a baby for doing bedwetting or he is not counted as a part of the ‘grown-up’ child society. Once you get his trust to share everything, it will be a lot easier for you to help you child, either providing support or giving another point of view of bedwetting:
Age does not matter
The first help you can give your child is explaining that bedwetting is not necessarily related to age. Well yes, it usually happens on a child who is under 7 or in teenagers, but all children indeed once wet the bed, no matter he is under 5 or above 9. Why so? Because it is more about bladder control that needs to be improved. The good news is, the bladder system develops better as he grows up so no need to worry about that. Make sure you tell him about it correctly, in the words he easily understands.
Psychological condition matters
From the source I read, when a child wets the bed, it is not only due to the immature bladder system, but also his psychological condition. For example if your child is afraid of darkness, he will wet the bed when he is sleeping with the lamp off. Or when he has been teased at school and he is uncomfortable with that, there is a possibility for him to wet the bed as he feels nervous. To avoid that, encourage your child to always share anything bothering his mind so he can be more relaxed.
Ask for his help
It is possible for him to feel like a baby no matter how hard you explain it is not like what he thinks. Try another way for instance involving him in cleaning up the mess when he wets the bed. In this way, he feels being trusted to do the things adults usually do for him which means, he is not a baby though he does not make a dry night. Worth-trying, isn’t it?