Wetting the bed always brings psychological effects to the doer, especially if he has already had his community where he wants to look good in all the time. Children of a certain age worry very much about “fitting in.” Anything that interrupts this often causes undue upset. Whether it is not having the “right” shoes or being different because of a medical condition, children who do not feel that they belong experience lots of stress. If your child thinks that he or she is the last 6-year-old (or 8-year-old or 16-year-old) that still wets the bed, your child may conclude that there is something “wrong” with them.
Have your doctor talk to your child and assure him or her that bedwetting is normal. Better yet, follow the advice above – have people who your child sees as normal talk about their childhood bedwetting. Once your child realizes that he or she is not “strange” by wetting the bed, some of the anxiety will decrease.
When Your Child Thinks, “I’m Not Normal”
“He is now 8 years old, studies at a good school and makes many friends. I see him very happy and excited in doing many things with his buddies. But when he does bedwetting—something he has never done after he was 5—he loses his spirit; he does want to stay at his friends’ house anymore and likes to be alone”. I can imagine how your little boy feels when at first he is very sociable but then, it is like there is no place for a man who does bedwetting; although I have to say that is just his own assumption, reasonable but probably it is not real. Why I said so? This is because wetting the bed always brings psychological effects. You know, without nobody makes a joke of it, bedwetting has given embarrassment to your child as he thinks he is now a ‘grown-up’ little man who does the business only in the toilet and wetting the bed is just for kids. Complicated, isn’t it?
With such a kind of mental condition, your child will also think he is not ‘normal’ while in fact, bedwetting is a common thing to do by children under 7 or even teenagers: this is what experts say. As a parent, it is good that you are aware of your job to help your kid get back his confidence and take away the feeling of abnormality. As many doctors say, you can do many things to heal the scar that bedwetting leaves on his feelings:
Wetting the bed is classified into two, primary and secondary
The primary one commonly happens during childhood without any stops so your kid has never had a dry night. This is usually caused by immaturity of the bladder system or his body cannot respond the brain urinating alarm. While for the secondary, it usually occurs after it once stops just like in the illustration above. To prove to your child that he is normal, see the doctor and let him explains how that can happen to your 8-year-old kid. Experts’ explanation is always reliable, right?
Give family support
After the doctor helps him finding his ‘normality’, it is the time for the family to take actions. You and other family members can spend Saturday night to share the story which is pretty similar to your kid’s experience and how you all overcome it, including the way how you no longer feel abnormal. Your child can take a lesson from all the stories and he will not feel lonely anymore.
By the time you know the accident happens, definitely you will be the one who cleans up all the mess. To make your child feels OK, involve him in the cleaning process. Ask him to change the sheets or any other work to need to do. If you treat him normally, he feels more comfortable and has less anxiety. Try these out.