One thing that you need to watch out for in terms of teasing is bullying. Bullying is teasing that has taken a more aggressive turn. In many cases, it escalates with time and can include actual physical violence. Some children have even died at the hands of bullies who have targeted them.
When you think the worst consequence of bedwetting your child is afraid is your anger, you are wrong. No matter how loud your yell is or how sour your expression is while cleaning up his room, there is other another side effect of bedwetting that will bother him the most: the tease from his friends. Yeah, for adults like us, bedwetting is a very common phenomenon in kids under 7 or even in some teenagers due to particular reasons, especially psychological problems.
However, many children seem to have different opinion and feeling about that; if they do bedwetting, this means they are like a baby or ‘different’. The feeling of difference usually become the cause of teasing which in a certain level, teasing can be a bullying.
When your child is teased by his friends once or twice at a time and your child can handle the situation, this is not bullying. Yet, if that happens frequently causing your child starts to feel intimidated and stressful until he is uncomfortable to come to school and even have a more terrible bedwetting for example, you need to be careful as probably the tease has turned to be bullying for your little one and this is a serious problem.
You know, bullying is something you, other parents and the school should not take lightly. You have to take actions on the matter so the habit does not spread and your child can feel safe in his place. So, what you can do to help your beloved child when he feels like being bullied?
When your child thinks, “I’m being bullied.”
Sometimes, it can be hard to tell when teasing has taken the turn to bullying, but in general if your child seems traumatized by the teasing he or she is getting at school, you should treat the teasing as bullying.
Also, if there is any physical aggression or any threats then the situation is certainly bullying. Bullying is a crime in many locations and needs to be brought to the attention of parents, school authorities, and possibly authorities as well. Bullying needs to be taken seriously at once, as it can very quickly get completely out of hand.
Of course, adults know that bullying and teasing are not caused by bedwetting – child bullies will target any child who seems unsure of themselves and any child who displays signs of being “different.” However, bedwetting can be a sign of difference and can affect a child’s self-esteem to the point where they do make a target for other children.
In some cases, therapy or visits to a counselor can help your child get the social skills needed to deal with teasing. In other cases, more help is needed, especially if bullying is an issue.
In many cases, trying to deal with the bully’s parents has little effect, as not all parents can control what their children do outside the house. Moving away is also not always effective, as teasing may simply continue at the new location.
Always be there
Always be there for your child whenever he needs you to share his experience at school. When you spend your time listening to him, it will be easier for you to know if bullying has happened to your child. From his story, you also know whether he can handle the problem or needs adult help thus you are able to respond appropriately.
Keep his friends close
You know, mostly bullying happens to a kid who is alone and feels different. You can handle his ‘I-am-different’ feeling by having a more frequent sharing time at home, but for being alone, you had better cooperating with his friends. You must know his closest friends, if it is possible, talk to them to be always close to you kid or just tell your child to go wherever with them even if it is just to the canteen. In this way, he will feel safer and the teaser may not come to him, too.
Talk to a counselor
While you have done anything to help your child coping with his feeling of being bullied, sometimes he still feels depressed. Do not lose hope, dear Mom. You can take your little one to a counselor as he/ she is the expert in the psychological matters. From the counseling, you know what else you can do for your child and he also know what he can do to socialize better and solve the bullying problems himself.